map $ssl_preread_server_name $name {
    backend.example.com      backend;
    default                  backend2;
}

upstream backend {
    server 192.168.0.1:12345;
    server 192.168.0.2:12345;
}

upstream backend2 {
    server 192.168.0.3:12345;
    server 192.168.0.4:12345;
}

server {
    listen      12346;
    proxy_pass  $name;
    ssl_preread on;
}